The Desire to Fix Human Beings

I remember when I used to pray, “God, fix this person or that person.” Thank God, I no longer do this. Why? Well, I have come to understand that this prayer is a waste of time. In most cases, when I prayed this prayer it was me who needed “fixin” not the other person. Oh how I became a master at projecting my expectations on others.

I’ve learned that humanity minus all the trappings of material possessions and personal wealth, is equal. We arrive in this world because of the miracle of birth, we are granted the privilege to live past birth by God and we all will one day pass form this life into the next. See, basic equality; nothing to do with political preference, race, color, creed, or religion.

What makes one human being believe they can fix another?

For a person, equal to the other to assume they can fix another is sanctimonious. True, we can use our faith, knowledge, wealth, and possessions to assist others. We can provide grace, love, security, and comfort to others. However, we must never forget, our purpose or mission in this life does not provide the means or authority to fix another human being.

Go ahead, walk with others, talk with others, and hangout with others. Just do not try to fix others. If you do, the best you will get is superficiality.

I wonder what would happen if we stopped focusing on fixing others? What if we used what God gave us to provide and environment of grace, love, security, and comfort; you know, the place where “true love” comes from? The choice to change will always be in the heart of the “Fixee” not the “Fixer.”


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Who Said We Weren’t Connected

I often read reputable sources that claim “We are more connected” than we have ever been. If this is the case then why do I often hear he or she or they or we are not connected?

What does our connectedness depend on?

Does it mean we must like the same thing as another to be connected?

Does it mean we must look similar or dress alike to be connected?

Does it mean we must have either an electronic link or a chemical attraction?

What really is connectedness?

Could our perceived connectedness be a facade?

What if, how we are connected wasn’t through cyberspace? Would we be the most connected generation then? I mean, is cyberspace a real place or is it a place, a perception, to where we assume we can run to escape seemingly unfair judgements? Or is it a place to hide? Or a place to be whatever we want to be without fear of rejection?

If you reach out in the night, after a bad dream, will your smartphone be there to caress you and command the demons to flee?

What if our connectedness depended solely on being human; not just good, not just evil, not just loving or hateful – but all the above? Without people in this world we are void of two never changing inherently human issues. One is love, and the other is hate. And just like good can’t exist without evil; love can’t exist without hate. Love is the water which fills the vessel, and hate is the divining rod which points us toward love’s living water.

No matter how connected or disconnected we become, no matter how far we run, no matter how hard we wish all the human pain, problems, issues or concerns would disappear we will never live in a perfect world. Why, because the world contains free thinking people. People will never be perfect; they will just be people. We can fight against them, we can hate them, or we can reject them. But maybe, just maybe connected or not we can learn to accept them – flaws and all.

Connectedness was founded on an “Image” many many years ago. No matter the human who looks into the looking glass, the reflection will always be the same. Connectedness is found in the human image, not human behavior.  Human Behavior is another issue for another time.

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Mighty Men Recon Day – Yuma 10-22-16

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Sifting Through Social Media Opinions

When I was a kid, I often watched my Mom bake bread. One part of the process I really thought was neat was when she dumped the clean pure bleached flour through a sifter.  I asked her, Mom, if the flour is already clean pure and bleached then why do you need to put it through the sifter? She said, “It makes the flour lighter and it blends better.  Plus, it removes any potential non-palatable hunks, chunks, or impurities.  When it comes to baking a “Great” loaf of bread, I never assume the machinery that spits out the finished product is flawless.”

Wow! What a lesson. Today, I think about social media and how it has the potential to produce non-palatable hunks, chunks, and impurities.  Now, I am not attacking it (Social Media); I use it.  At first, I despised social media, I somehow thought I was subject to every opinion I read. News Flash:  I am not and neither are you.

What is an opinion?

Opinion Definition: a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.

How many opinions do you think you sift through on a daily basis?

How many of those opinions do you understand to be truthful?

Does the act of opinion sifting cause you unnecessary stress, depression, worry, anxiety, and/or fear?

I asked myself these questions as well. And, because I was truthful with myself I discovered just how much the opinions of others, if I let them, attempted to mar my identity.  I then thought about my Mother’s flour sifter. I wondered, how can I sift through the junk, hunks, chunks, and other impurities found in social media?  Then all of a sudden it hit me:

  1. I have the power to question any and all opinions before I accept them as truth.
  2. I have the ability to educate myself on the truth of the matter before I consider absorbing what I have just read or witnessed.
  3. I have the strength to bypass those opinions or comments that in no way uplifts me or any other human being.

Oh yeah! And because I am Christian I can recall the words of the Apostle Paul (Philippians 4:8-9):

“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”

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What is My Purpose?

How often do you contemplate your purpose in the life you have been given?  Do you know what your purpose is? Are your priorities positioned in a way that allow you to fulfill your purpose?  Often times I feel like a rudderless ship tossed about on a sea of choices.  It is the variety of these choices which cause my purpose to be swayed by my selfish pleasure seeking desires.  Do I condemn myself for focusing my purpose inward through fleeting accomplishments, accolades, and worldly goal attainment?  No.  I give myself permission to be human.  However, being human does not excuse me from reevaluating my purpose as life tosses me to and fro. But, how do I reevaluate my purpose?  As a Christian what measuring device do I use to find the purpose that truly fulfills my soul?  Many times in my life I made the mistake of thinking the “Free Will” I was given was so I could discover “MY” purpose, but it wasn’t.  The free will I was given was given for use in service; service to God and other mini-me’s who bear His Image.  Service to God and others is a rudder to my torrent soul; it leads me always back to my “Father.” On an Enlistment Poster Jesus said, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” (Matthew 7:21) It is God’s will that provides me with my purpose, and His will, will, be done on earth as it is in heaven!

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The Cure for Political Anxiety

(The comments below were spoken by Matt Chandler and Kyle Worley from “The Village Church” in Texas).

The problem with an unhealthy involvement in politics stems from expecting too much from politics, Worley contends.

“If our hope is in Christ and the kingdom of God then we’ll be able to expect from modern politics what it can deliver and not expect more than what it can deliver,” Worley says.

Ultimately, if we’re putting too much hope in the next president rather than Christ and his kingdom, we’re going to be disappointed and disolusioned, the church leaders agree; politics will never be able to deliver the hope that God can.

Chandler adds to this argument, suggesting that Christians can use their “faithful presence” to shape their culture and therefore shape politics.

It’s also important for Christians to remember that ultimately, God is in control of the political process. “The Lord’s at work in this political process,” Chandler says. “He’s not panicked or nervous – He already knows who our next president is.”

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Do You Know The Definition of a “Priest”?

Most often we associate this word with the Catholic community or with certain denominational affiliations.  Under the Law, associations and affiliations were the cornerstone for the Levitical priesthood.  However, today, with thanks given to our Lord Jesus Christ and the Gospel he has charged us with, we are all priests.  Peter even said so in (1 Peter 2:5).  Old Testament priests and New Testament priests are quite different.  The Old Testament priests talked about the Messiah to come, whereas the New Testament priests, that’s US, talks about the Messiah who has come.  You don’t have to wear clerical collars or an ornamental robe to be a New Testament priest.  And, God knows you don’t have to be perfect.  All you have to do is believe, receive, and share the SON with others.  Unknown to themselves, many Christian men and women have went to their graves as fully qualified priests.  Know this in your hearts:  Man, denominational or not, has no authority to qualify YOU as a priest; only God through his Son Jesus Christ can do that! If you fully believe and receive that you have been saved by Jesus, and that He lived and died, and He was resurrected by the Father then you are a priest of the Gospel (Good News) of Jesus Christ.  Christ chose you, and He qualified you!! Let NO one tell you otherwise.

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